It has been some time since I have written about my son, mainly because he discovered what I was doing and asked me about it. I did not want to say it was a kind of therapy for me so I thought I better just stop especially now that he is in his teenage years. Puberty and autism are not always a good mix. I have a lot of pride and admiration for my son I know it is not easy for him.
When I think of my teenage years, and how excruciating they were, adding autism into the mix, well I can't even imagine what that must be like, and recently he has told me about some bullying he has been a victim of. He was telling me after the fact, something he does a lot, especially when it is something that has upset him greatly.
It is so true that children can be cruel, but I wonder if the children know just how cruel they can be? How much damage they are causing? Someone without autism would have trouble coping with bullying it is perhaps one of the most confusing actions, to make sense of, to a developing mind both cognitively and emotionally. When people who have been bullies, look back and remember what they did many of them are mortified by their behavior. Have little understanding of why they did it and in there later years would never contemplate taking this action again.
It comes from a place of inadequacy, of insecurity a place we all find ourselves in when we are feeling most vulnerable.
We need now in our enlightened and forward thinking society to put this abhorrent behavior into our distant past. We need to teach our young how damaging and far-reaching this behavior is towards our fellow human beings and how what you give out will eventually one day come back to you.
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