At thirteen now, my son's cognitive ability is increasing . Having spent now one full term at Secondary school , getting himself there on the bus on his own , and  spending some time at home on his own before I return from work ,  has led to him taking  a leap in maturity, also his ability to process  new things happening , has deepened .

His personnel understanding of his autism , though , continues to vex him .When ever he talks about autism he never refers to himself, or says my autism . He talks about it as a 'thing' or' autistic people do such and such ' .I know when he talks about autism , he is talking about himself but for some reason he is unable or not willing to talk of autism as something he has or is .

Which brings me to think is autism something you have, or something you are . I have noticed that when I am telling people about my son for the first time I tend to say he has autism not he is autistic , and yet I am of the opinion that autism is something you are . Autism does not define a persons character but it is a big chunk of it .It is a fact I can not get away from. Which then forces me to conclude that there can not be a cure for it .

If someone was able to take the autism from my son then he would be a completely different person. His perspective of the world would be turned on it's head .If however some kind of therapy or even organic medication (cannabis oil) was to be administered then perhaps he could live better with his autism, and even celebrate the fact that he is autistic .

Because he does have a very unique view of the world, and a character unlike any, I have come across in my life .Whatever it is he will do in life his autism will surely play a big part of that.